admin August 8th, 2006
Unclear on the concept: self-entitled baby boomer tells Catholic Church “You can’t excommunicate me – I have to excommunicate myself!”
This was priceless. Way too juicy to miss blogging on.
The Milwaukee Journal-Sentinel tells us that Kathy Sullivan Vandenberg, one of the “womanpriests” who was “ordained” a priest on a boat near Pittsburgh is “startled” that her archbishop distributed a letter to her fellow parishioners, informing them that he is obligated to tell the Vatican what Ms. Vandenberg did.
Before you say “Well, what she did was between her, the hierarchy, and God,” let me just say “No, actually, it isn’t.” I mean, it is, in that those are the primary parties concerned. However, if the archbishop had not distributed the information, it would have been held up as yet one more example of the Catholic Church’s secrecy, and you can bet your buttons that Ms. Vandenberg would have won the PR war (not, of course, that that’s the most important war involved here).
Here are the points from the article that really stuck out for me:
- “Vandenberg, 64, said Monday that she was ’startled’ by the letter and surprised that Dolan had ’spent so much time and energy’ on it when ‘other important things’ might demand his attention.”
Excuse me? You’ve been explicitly told that taking this action could lead to your being excommunicated. Contrary to popular belief, the Catholic Church doesn’t excommunicate willy-nilly, at least not now. (There have been some interesting articles about abuses of excommunication, but that doesn’t apply here.) Shouldn’t that clue you in that what you’re doing might well be a very important thing in the eyes of the Church?!
- “She was stung that Dolan made details of their talk public. “We both agreed that the meeting would be private,” she said.”
And I expect that he would have been happy to do so, but going back to the PR of the issue, those details were presumably relevant to the substance of the letter he wrote (i.e. him telling you that you could be excommunicated for doing this). If he had left them out, he would have been leaving the Church open to the public assumption that you were ignorant of the consequences of your actions. My PR professor always told us that perception may not be reality, but that it is in PR. You don’t get to frame the issue with only the details that are convenient to your side of the argument.
- “‘She promised she would confer with me about her next step,’ Dolan wrote to the parish. ‘In two subsequent letters, I have asked for her decision. Her regrettable participation in the protest gives me her unfortunate answer.’
Vandenberg said that ‘wasn’t quite accurate.’
‘I did respond to him in a letter,’ she said. “And I said . . . I (was) still deciding what I should do.’
So in other words, he wrote you…let’s give you the benefit of the doubt here and say you wrote back after the first letter (though it may have been after the second letter). You wrote back and said “I’m still deciding” (again, I am trying to give the benefit of the doubt). Then he sends the second letter – or you responded after the second letter with “I’m still deciding” – and, when you DO make the decision, you don’t tell him. That’s just rude and disrespectful, no matter with whom you’re dealing.
If I decide not to take a job, I respond to the prospective employer and decline it. I did choose not to respond to one of the mortgage companies I decided not to go with when I bought my condo, because their agent was so rude to me the last time I spoke with her, but I acknowledge that that was rude and childish of me, and when another agent contacted me to follow up I told her what had happened and that I had decided to go with another company. It’s pretty simple – it’s what grown-ups do.
- “Of official efforts to sever her ties to the church. Vandenberg said: ‘Excommunication is simply a punishment. That doesn’t mean I’m excluded from the church. Only I can exclude myself.’”
Well, yes and no. As I understand it, excommunication is a punishment. And according to the preliminary research I’ve done, for many excommunication cases, enforcement does lie with the excommunicant. However, this looks to me (again, preliminarily) to be more of a case of an interdict, in which she would be barred from receiving sacraments. So yes, Virginia, they can exclude you.
There’s a very good op-ed in the Journal Sentinel by a Milwaukee seminarian, explaining the Catholic Church’s position, here.