Archive for May, 2008

Yes, but not in the way you’re thinking…

Kasia May 30th, 2008

So TBS just sent me a CNN article about “womenpriests” (why, oh why, can’t they just call themselves “priestesses” and be done with it?) and excommunication. I have no idea how accurate the article is (though at least CNN had the sense to use “sic” after the group name “Roman Catholic Womenpriests”).

But I do have to say a couple of things to Ms. Nicolosi:

1. If you “have come not to take [excommunication] too seriously,” how can you claim with a straight face that you’re Roman Catholic? The Pope, and the Vatican, are the pinnacle of earthly authority for the Roman Catholic Church. Being excommunicated by the Vatican is something to take very seriously, if you are a Roman Catholic.

At least the self-styled “Old Catholic Church” has the modicum of good taste not to claim they’re Roman Catholic…

Look. If you’ve taken the step of being putatively ordained, you are no longer trying to reform “from within”. You have gone far beyond the pale. Please be honest about it!

2. The priesthood is not about power or patriarchy. It is about service to the Body of Christ, in the person of Christ. Whenever anyone, male or female, talks about the priesthood and the Church hierarchy in terms of patriarchy or power, it sets off red flags for me. It suggests to me they’re interested in it for entirely the wrong reasons. I’m just sayin’.

3. There may be an increasing number of Catholics who are supporting you, but speaking for myself, when I see more blather about “womenpriests” in the media…well, you’re right that I say something “is getting ridiculous”. But I’ll give you a clue: it ain’t the Church I’m talking about when I say it.

It has been almost fifteen years since John Paul II spoke authoritatively on the subject of women’s ordination. I do not understand for the life of me why you and yours cannot wrap your brains around the Church having said that she does not have the authority to ordain women.

You make me sad, Ms. Nicolosi.

I Am a/an: meme

Kasia May 26th, 2008

Tara tagged anyone who wants to play with this I Am a/an meme. It’s been a little while since I’ve done a meme, and I need a little silliness right now, so here goes (though it may take me more than the allotted 26 minutes).The theme for this meme is: using the 26 letters of the alphabet, express who you are, what you do, your interests, what matters to you etc. You have to write it within 26 minutes.

Am a/an:
A. Amply blessed individual
B. Bad singer
C. Catholic
D. Dog-loving dork
E. Extremely empathetic
F. Foul-language averse
G. God-loving
H. Honest to a fault
I.  Irritated too easily
J. Jolly Rancher-hating
K. Kitty kisser
L. Love to laugh and learn languages
M. Mildly melodramatic
N. Novus Ordo (vernacular) attendee
O. Overly optimistic (at times)
P. Praying for patience
Q. Quirky
R. Running-averse
S. Silly and smiley
T. Too tired for “T”
U. Unprepared
V. Voracious reader
W. Wedding-planning
X. Xylophone player (well, in high school band, anyway)
Y. Young-ish
Z. Ziploc saver

Update on Bank of America/Working Assets

Kasia May 23rd, 2008

As I mentioned in my update to the BOA/WA post, I received a combox reply from the Director of Customer Relations at Working Assets. He and I had a very courteous exchange, and I am being put into Working Assets’ system as a “do-not-solicit”. Which isn’t ideal, of course, as the perfect-world solution would involve their not having my information at all; but since we don’t live in a perfect world, I’m very satisfied with what we were able to work out.

Big Seester, meanwhile, did a little quick research on BOA. Turns out they’re being boycotted by several groups:

- Life Decisions International;
- several groups who are upset about BOA’s decision to issue credit cards to persons without Social Security numbers (if you google “Bank of America” boycott, you’ll see plenty of hits); and
- they’re apparently in the doghouse with the Rainforest Action Network.

All in all, it’s enough to make me think they don’t really need my business. Now, my main reason for closing my account is the LDI boycott. I’ve heard a lot of mixed rhetoric about the second one, and I haven’t been able to slog through enough of it to feel comfortable that I’m hitting near the heart of the issue. As for the third one, I do not know much about the Rainforest Action Network or their credibility, nor do I feel competent to make any kind of judgment about their claims.

So I’ve drafted my account closure letter, which I will tweak over the weekend and send off to Bank of America next week. I’m a little nervous, because this account is paid off and is thus currently reflecting favorably on my debt-to-available-credit ratio, but I’m just going to push off and trust in God. I’m trying not to use credit anyway.

If I weren’t already engaged…

Kasia May 22nd, 2008

I would be SO into these guys!!! As it is, I just think they’re awesome. (Kind of like the guy who tried to order personalized Nike shoes with “Sweatshop” printed on them.)

TBS and I are both sympathizers with the militant wing of the Apostrophe Protection Society (see the book Eats, Shoots & Leaves for explanation of that). Though I have not yet managed to join, as I have not yet procured a balaclava…

Thanks for sending me the link, Sweetie! Don’t worry; those grammar guerrillas have nothing on you!  :-)

May God bless Bishop Vigneron!

Kasia May 19th, 2008

Gotta love a bishop with the spine to say what the Church teaches without apologizing for it.

And while we’re at it, may God bless Fr. Malloy too.

You know you’ve got issues when…

Kasia May 18th, 2008

I saw a post over on Mulier Fortis about a web game called Ikariam. It’s kind of fun, though a bit maddening at times. Basically it’s an empire-building game set in a world of ancient Greek islands. All sorts of good economic lessons, with much more fun than you get in your basic economics classes. :-p

I’m waiting impatiently for my scientists to finish researching “Wealth” so I can start tapping the vineyards on my island. And like any good economically based game, you can only do so much at a time, i.e. however many workers I assign to the vineyards can only produce one unit of grapes per hour, and there’s an opportunity cost in gold for each worker who’s in the vineyards instead of in the village plying his trade.

I must be taking this game waaaayyy too seriously, because when I realized that my scientists were going to finish with “Wealth” at about 12:30 or 1 a.m. tonight, I actually considered setting my alarm so I could come in here and start tapping the vineyards then. You know, so I take advantage of those six or seven hours before I have to get up and get ready for work…and then I could start building my trading post…

If I were half this attentive to my prayer life, I would probably be well on the road to sainthood. That should probably tell me something…

Tangled webs

Kasia May 18th, 2008

UPDATE 5/19/08: I’ve received a very courteous comment in my box (which I have not yet approved because I don’t know if he would want his contact details posted) from the Director of Customer Relations at Working Assets. He must have a pretty good Google Alert set, let me tell you… :-)

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What drives me the craziest about doing business these days is trying to figure out who exactly I’m doing business with.

I don’t mean “who” in some deep philosophical sense. I mean, if I bank at Bank A, even putting aside the fact that it’s likely to change names six times in ten years, who does Bank A contribute to and who are their close business partners?

Let’s use a real-world example, since that’s what prompted this post. The other day I see a credit card offer in my mail. That’s not terribly uncommon, even in these days of tighter credit standards. What struck me was that it was from Working Assets.

Now, I am not 100% sure, but I did at least consider doing business with WA about eight years ago, when I was much more left-wing than I am now, and more notably was still on the fence about abortion. At the time, I didn’t particularly care that they were affiliated with Planned Parenthood. Now, of course, I do.

In any case, I haven’t done any business with WA in at least eight years, and I don’t think I ever actually did. But I used to be on their e-mail lists; I unsubscribed some time ago. So I was more than a little surprised to see this solicitation. But hey, I figured, they probably had a list from one of those bean-counters who makes their living by trying to predict what I’ll support, and somehow I was on it. I’ll just call or e-mail them and ask them to take me off their lists.

Then I looked more closely at the envelope. The postage meter reads “PRSRT STD U.S. POSTAGE PAID BANK OF AMERICA” (my emphasis) .

Whoaaa, Nellie! Are they the same? Or are they different?

So I started doing some research, and at the same time I called my Bank of America card services phone number. See, I DO have a BOA card (well, I got it through MBNA, and of course BOA acquired them recently, or they merged, or some such thing). And I’m thinking “If Working Assets is now a subsidiary of Bank of America, do I really want to keep doing business with BOA?”

Well, the woman at BOA was somewhat helpful. She told me that BOA is the credit card provider for WA, but that that’s the extent of their relationship. At this point I’m not sure how to proceed, so I ask her how I can get off of WA’s mailing lists. I’m especially confused because I already HAVE a BOA card, so why would they be soliciting me for what is, in effect, another BOA card? But I figured - having worked with mass mailings before - that they probably didn’t cross-check the list against current BOA customers, so I was just an unfortunate duplicate.

Well, she couldn’t freeze me from just WA offers. She had to freeze me from all BOA offers. I said fine, go ahead and do it, and while we’re at it, may I please have WA’s phone number so I can call them and ask to be taken off of their lists? She gave it to me, we said goodbye, and I started dialing Working Assets’ number.

Except that when it picked up, it was Bank of America.

It was the application line for the WA/BOA Visa card that I had been offered.

The gentleman I spoke with there was slightly less helpful, though he did make an effort. Like the previous woman, he offered to freeze me from offers. But he could not provide me with any information for or about Working Assets apart from what I already had gleaned.
I’m starting to get a little miffed. And I’m seriously considering canceling my Bank of America card. Which is unfortunate, because BOA just took over what was, about five iterations ago, a local bank called Standard Federal, for whom I used to work and with whom I used to bank, and which has a branch about a block from my home. Canuck and I will be merging our finances in about eight months, and we were looking at a Bank of America product as a very real possibility. Now I’m not sure I’m comfortable with that. We may just stick with credit unions.

Does anyone know how I can get a hold of Working Assets themselves? There seems to not be a lot of accountability here - Bank of America provided the list (which doesn’t make a lot of sense to me, but OK), but Working Assets  is the one I’m trying to tell to leave me alone. It’s a murky, slip-slidy kind of thing that I’m not having a lot of success getting a grip on.

SHAZAM!!!

Kasia May 15th, 2008

Thanks to Ma Beck, I think I have found my bridesmaid dress source!

Ma, not to be an ingrate, but where were you four months ago when I was agonizing trying to find a wedding dress?  :-p

‘S ok - seriously, I am so glad to have been told about this site in time for bridesmaids, you have NO idea…

So I’ve requested some swatches via e-mail, and we’ll go from there.

Ma - you rock! I think you’ve just earned yourself “Favorite Blogger of the Day”! Heck, make that the week!!! Next beer I have is for you.

(Of course, I drink beer about, oh, once every six months…so don’t think it’s going to happen SOON… ;-) )

My open letter to David’s - any thoughts?

Kasia May 13th, 2008

May 13, 2008

Robert D. Huth
Chief Executive Officer
David’s Bridal, Inc.
1001 Washington St.
Conshohocken, PA 
19428

Dear Mr. Huth:

I am writing to tell you exactly why I did not purchase my wedding gown from David’s Bridal. For the record, it is also why none of my accessories and none of my attendants’ gowns or accessories will come from David’s, and why I will not recommend David’s to any woman I know who is looking for formal or wedding apparel.

Upon my engagement, my sister and stepmother and I went to a local David’s to try on some dresses and get an idea of what I might like. At that point, I was honestly hoping to be able to find my dress and accessories there, as David’s has a reputation for good prices. What’s more, I was impressed by David’s efforts to keep a variety of sizes in stock for trying on, which is very uncommon in bridal salons. I thought David’s was meeting an important need in the bridal market, and was looking forward to the possibility of outfitting my wedding with you.

My fiancé and I are practicing Roman Catholics. As Catholics, we believe that the Lord Jesus is actually present in the Eucharist, which is confected at each Mass and then kept in the tabernacle in the church in between Masses. In short, Catholics believe that any time you walk into a Catholic or Orthodox church and the candle by the tabernacle is burning to signify that the Eucharist is present in the tabernacle, Jesus Christ is present in a unique and particular way. That is why Catholics genuflect inside a church: we are kneeling in reverence before the Lord.

My wedding will take place in a Catholic church, and irrespective of whether it is celebrated simply as the marriage rite or within the context of a Mass (for the record, it will be at a Mass), my apparel and that of my attendants needs to reflect that we are in the presence of our Lord and Savior. I cannot wear your dresses in front of the Lord.

I was dismayed to learn that not only do you not stock any dresses that have shoulders and sleeves (even cap sleeves!), but your only options for modesty concerns are a bolero jacket or a set of hook-on mesh sleeves. The bolero at least offers some coverage; the mesh sleeves are at best the letter and not the spirit of the law. I was further dismayed that the otherwise very helpful and knowledgeable saleswoman who assisted us seemed to have no concept that a strapless dress with mesh sleeves hooked on might not be considered appropriate church attire, even when my sister and I assured her that it would not be acceptable in our church.

It is my opinion that David’s is missing a significant sector of the potential bridal market. Please consider that Catholics are hardly the most rigorous in terms of modesty, both inside and outside the church building. I suspect you are losing out on business from not only moderate to conservative Roman Catholics, but also Eastern Rite Catholics, Orthodox Christians, Orthodox and Conservative Jews, Mormons, Muslims, and conservative Evangelical Protestants (i.e. Baptists and Pentecostals). These groups make up a considerable and growing proportion of the U.S. population, and with the relative dearth of modest bridal apparel on the market, David’s could garner not only a lot of business but also a great deal of good will from these under-served groups.

As it stands, I discovered that my options were few. I could purchase an immodest gown and either have it “built up” to provide adequate coverage or put on a bolero. I found that unacceptable, both from a cost standpoint and a principled standpoint; why should I encourage a market that is not serving me by purchasing from it? I could have a dress made, but patterns were few and far between, as were seamstresses I would entrust with such a job. Finally, and this is what I ultimately did, I could buy a dress online from one of a small variety of retailers (mostly Mormon or catering to Mormons) that specialized in relatively modest bridal dresses. The selection was small, but I eventually found a dress that met my modesty needs and was simple enough to suit my tastes.

As a final note, shoulders and sleeves do not have to be simply a modesty concern, but also a practical one. Consider this: my wedding is scheduled for January 24 in southeastern
Michigan. Neither I nor my bridesmaids should have to shiver in sleeveless or spaghetti-strapped dresses if we have the misfortune of catching a draft. I am enormously disappointed that there are so few three-quarter and long-sleeved dresses on the market. I realize that winter weddings are not as common as spring and summer ones, but I find it difficult to believe that they are as disproportionately uncommon as are long-sleeved dresses.

I hope you will take this letter in the spirit intended. It is too late for David’s to win my business, but I hope you will at least investigate filling the modesty gap in the bridal market.

Sincerely,

(The Clam’s real name)

 

You go, Ma.

Kasia May 8th, 2008

Ma Beck had such a good post that all I can do is link to it.

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